What’s the best age gap between siblings?
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I think when most people start thinking about having kids the idea is to have them close together. It makes sense, you are still in baby mode you still have lots of good baby clothes, blankets, and bottles. Changing an extra diaper really isn’t a big deal right? They practically start school at the same time so they’ll always have each others back.
My sister and I are 7 1/2 years apart and I always wished we were closer in age. She was already halfway through elementary school when I was born. She was driving before I hit 2 digits and married with 2 kids before I even finished high school. I thought it would’ve been so cool to grow up with a sibling close to my age so we could experience things together.
But there are also so many perks in having a much older sibling. I learned a lot from my sister, I got to watch her accomplishments and fails which at times helped me make better decisions. She was able to buy
Before I started having kids of my own I always thought that they would be close in age, maybe a year or 2 apart… 3 at max! I just knew I didn’t want a big age gap and basically “start all over again”. But here I am now with a 10-year-old and a one-year-old, and ya know what? I wouldn’t have it any other way and here’s why…
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Before my son was born I was able to spend so much one on one time with my daughter. I genuinely got to enjoy her baby years and watch her grow into the amazing little girl she is now without any distractions. She had all the time she needed to shine on her own and gain independence.
Now im able to give my son the same amount of energy and focus I gave my daughter even though he’s not the only child. I’m not saying having a ten year old is easy (BELIEVE ME IT’S NOT) but my daughter is old enough to kind of do her own thing for the most part so I’m not pulling my hair out chasing two babies around the house.
My oldest is also an amazing little helper. It was only the two of us when Preston was born. Jason (my husband) was in AIT at the time so having my daughter around to assist with tasks like keeping an eye on the baby while I took a shower, bring me diapers and wipes or just a cup of water while I nursing was a huge help. She was very eager to step into that big sister role and I was extremely grateful.
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She has an instant fan! Seriously, my daughter is treated like Beyonce every time she steps in the room. My son goes nuts! I don’t even get that treatment :’-(. Tell me it’s not a confidence booster to walk into a room and completely light up someone’s life even if that someone is just a chunky little baby.
I love that my son has someone who he already looks up to and admires at 18 months old. He learns so quickly just from watching his big sister.
One big advantage for me is I’m a lot calmer. I’m not panicking over everything that happens. When my son gets a little sick I’m not running straight to the doctors’ office or emergency room as I did with my daughter. I know now a cold isn’t the end of the world for my baby. He doesn’t have a concussion just because he bumped his head. And he won’t catch some random disease because he dropped his teether and put it back in his mouth before I could rinse it off. Yeah, everything used to scare the sh*t out me!