Bonding with your baby is so important, as moms it comes naturally to most of us but most times dads need a little encouragement to create that same bond. My husband was away for the first 3 months of our son’s life, by the time he got home from basic training I already had a set schedule with our kids and an unbreakable bond with our new son.
It took a little while for him to adjust to life with a brand new baby. There are things I encouraged him to do as well as things he did on his own to feel closer to our son. Here’s what he did, and hopefully this can help your help husband connect with your new baby.
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Skin To Skin contact
One of the first things they do once the baby is born is put him/her on your chest. Some of the benefits of skin to skin contact are:
It calms your baby
They cry less
Regulates blood sugar
Keeps baby warm
Helps baby feel safe
And of course, creates a bond which is why this is a great way for dads to bond with baby.
Reading to your baby is not only a good way to bond but it also enhances memory and stimulates language skills which can lead to your baby talking sooner than expected.
Let Him Respond First
This one is easier said than done! I’m always the first person to go running to my baby if he’s crying so trust me when I say I know it’s hard but you have to allow your partner to get to the baby first and handle it. He shouldn’t feel like it’s a race.
Let Him Find His Way
You have your way of parenting and yes it works for you and the baby but what works for you might not work for your husband. He has to have time and a little space to figure out his way of parenting. He’ll make mistakes, he’ll struggle to figure some things out, but eventually, he will find his rhythm and that alone is a huge accomplishment.
If you are nursing i would suggest investing in a good breast pump, even if you are a stay at home mom. Not only should you have pumped milk stored in the freezer in case you have to leave your baby for a while but it’s also one of the best ways for your husband to bond with the baby. Think about it for a sec when you are feeding your baby weather, through the breast or bottle, you’re holding him/her close, looking into their eyes and giving them the one thing they love the most MILK! How could your baby not love him!?
Even in the early months, you can play with your baby. Tummy time is a good way to play with younger babies. He could put the baby on a blanket or tummy time mat on the floor and encourage him/her to lift their head, he could hold a toy in front of the baby to get him to focus, he could arrange toys in different directions to get baby to reach, or even lay down and put the baby directly on top of him.
Get dad a baby carrier. This is the one we used, it’s comfortable, sturdy and affordable. He can carry the baby around the house and still have free hands to do other things or of course if you guys are out and about he can keep the baby close. It’s another great way to build a connection
Babies love music so singing to him/her not only gets him used to dads voice but it’s also stimulating and can also be a part of night time or nap routines. My husband used to sing “Say you won’t let go” by James Arthur every night at bedtime, after awhile every time that song came on our son would fall asleep within minutes.
Allowing your husband to find his own way as a dad is one of the best things you can do for him. It is important to give him the same support as a father that he gives you as a mother. A lot of new fathers are just nervous and need a little push into the daddy role.
How lucky is he to have an awesome wife like you searching for ways to help him ease into fatherhood!
Did you try any of these tips? Let me know down in the comments!