Positive Body Image
Loving the skin you’re in isn’t always as easy as it sounds. This is true for both genders but I think as women we struggle a little more with body positivity. It’s so easy for us to compare this or that part to someone else’s as grown women so imagine how hard it is for our daughters to look in the mirror and genuinely love what she sees!
We live in a social media-dominated “Instagram model” world now and with all the pressure girls have on them to look “perfect” I personally want to make sure my daughter is confident from childhood all the way into her adult years.
The following tips are going to help you raise your daughter to have a positive body image, which is extremely important for all your children.
Focus on Intelligence and Personality
While I feel like it’s perfectly fine to compliment the way my daughter looks, I don’t only focus on appearance. It’s so important to get into the habit of giving our daughters all types of compliments. Focus on her skills, talents, creativity, intelligence, accomplishments, and personality. Let her know you are proud of everything she has done, you admire her strength and bravery, and that you are proud of her trying new things. When you don’t put as much emphasis on how your daughter looks, she won’t think so much about it either. She will understand that a person’s appearance is not all they have.
Don’t just tell her, show her!
How we carry ourselves as women and what we say about our bodies makes more of a difference than you might think. Your daughter is always watching you, even when you don’t realize it. Don’t give her a good reason to mimic your actions and then try to do or say the same things about herself.
It is okay to be healthy and for you to encourage your daughter to be healthy, but talking bad about your weight, complaining the scale isn’t moving, or constantly trying new fad diets is not going to teach her anything that will be good for her own body image. Easier said than done I know, but we can also take this opportunity to appreciate our bodies more if this is something you struggle with.
Talk about what she’ll see in the Media
Like it or not your daughter is going to see people in the media and might be intimidated by these images. Chances are at some point she might even want to look like the girls she sees on Instagram, tik tok or youtube. You must talk to her about realistic expectations and women’s bodies. Explain that every woman’s body is different whether it’s from just naturally being born a certain way or it’s plastic surgery. It can be a hard discussion to have, but your daughter needs to understand that no two people are alike or will look the same.
Keep reminding your daughter that she should be healthy and proud of the body she has. Try to find the balance between encouraging healthy eating and exercise, but not putting so much emphasis on appearance.
Get Dad involved
Even though conversations like this about body positivity are mostly had between mom and daughter, It’s just as important to have dad involved. Girls love getting positive feedback from their fathers. Having a good open relationship with her dad builds confidence that’ll help her form positive relationships with the right people.