One of the hardest parts of your husband joining the army is when he has to leave for basic training. When Jason walked out the door for the first time I became the biggest sobbing baby EVER. Being pregnant at the time only amplified my emotions, I was a crying hormonal mess! I’d like to say it was only for a short time, maybe an hour or two but nope I was that way for the entire first week.
Having survived the dreadful first steps of the army aka basic training I feel like it’s my duty to try and help someone who might be going through it now. So I’ve compiled some useful tips that could help you until your husband comes back a soldier.
Learn the lingo
When he comes back he’ll have all kinds of stories using a plethora of words you won’t understand. If you study army terms and lingo you won’t have to stop him every other word to ask what that means. You’ll be on the same page as him every step of the way and he’ll probably be thoroughly impressed.
Start writing tons of letters! Even if you don’t have the address yet, it might make you feel better to simply tell him about your day and how much you miss him. Once you get the address you’ll already have a stack of letters ready to send him all at once or one every day.
Visit family and friends
Chances are once all of his training is over he’ll have orders to move to a different state. That’s why spending quality time with your family and friends is really important because you don’t know when you’ll be able to come back and see them. It’s also nice to have a support system, you don’t want to isolate yourself.
Take pictures of yourself and everything else, he’ll most likely enjoy seeing familiar places and faces when he’s laying in bed.
Keep your phone close and charged
If he’s allowed to call home you don’t want to miss it because your phone was in the other room or dead. Phone calls are like gold in basic and nothing feels worse than looking at your phone and seeing that missed call.
Keep track of his progress
Ask him about the specific training he’s doing that week. They have different phases
- Red phase (week 1-3)
- White phase (week 4-5)
- Blue phase (week 6-9)
- Graduation (week 10)
Speaking of graduation, plan for it. Once you get the info take off work, book your room and flight or get ready for a long drive. You wanna plan as early as you can in advance.
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Go get a massage, buy an outfit, go to the movies or just do whatever brings you a little pleasure. You deserve it! It’s too easy to forget to take care of yourself with all the stress and worrying. Pick a day and make it all about you. Mark it on your calendar or write it on a sticky note and put it on your mirror just don’t forget about YOU.
Connect with other military spouses
Even though having family and friends to talk to is awesome, there’s nothing like talking to someone who actually understands what you are going through.
Memorize his SSN
This one is super important. One of the questions you’ll get asked the most when you go to the doctor or try to handle anything army related is “What’s your sponsor’s date of birth and social security number?”.
They’ll be shitty days. Sometimes it’ll feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders and you’ll just wanna yell at him for leaving you to handle it all alone. Write it all down then throw it away, or better yet call that friend you made that’s probably going through the same thing and vent together. You’ll feel much better I promise! Keep in mind that what he’s doing is hard as hell and it’s for your future and the future of your family. He’ll probably second-guess his decision to enlist at some point during training (most do) and the last thing you wanna do is give him something else to worry about. Keep it positive and encourage him to kick ass